Just thought I would share a very precious conversation that my 3 yr old had at school today. When I went to pick her up, her teacher, Ms. Suzy, walked her out as usual to put her in the car. I got the usual update of what all they did in class and that Madeline had a wonderful day. Then Ms. Suzy shared something with me that had me in tears...she said that during the morning devotional, they were talking about being happy and sharing things that God gives us that makes us happy. Ms. Suzy said that Madeline stopped for a moment then said, "yea, but God made me sad when He put my daddy on an airplane and took him away from me" OUCH! Tears...
Being an adult in a deployment is hard even when you "understand" the reason your spouse has to leave...I don't know what it is like to be a 3 yr old watching your daddy leave. I can only imagine how much harder it must be when you don't understand. My baby girl is sad...she misses her daddy...and this was her way of expressing that. I talked with Madeline for a little while tonight. I want her to know that it is ok to be sad because mommy is sad too. I want her to understand that during all this we will have days when we are really happy and days when we are really sad. BUT most of all I want her to know that even though her daddy is gone, she has a heavenly Father that loves her more than Jason and I could ever love her and that HE is always with her, even when she is sad. I want her to know that it is in these times that God is growing us and bringing us closer to Him...yea, a little too deep for a 3 yr old, but I want her to know that...and pray that one day she will get it. That one day she will look back at this sad time and thank God for His faithfulness to us during these times.
If only parenting (especially during a deployment) came with a handbook of instructions...So, readers, how would you have handle this situation???
I will leave you with a picture of my little fashionista on a recent shopping trip...She has a purse filled with money and lipstick (no I am not kidding, it really was)